NaPpYMuseTV Live on Facebook? What is that?

Posted in Uncategorized on April 13, 2010 by nappymuse

NappyMuseTV Live On Facebook is a growing live vBlog.  NappyMuseTV show/webchat is a cross between The View and a Neo-Soul Lounge and TMZ. You are basically hanging out, but the focus is on you.  The more you comment on everything the better and the more exposure you get.  We love humor, so don’t feel like you can’t be you even for a little bit.  Feel free to disagree, agree an expound on something. However, we are a positive show/webchat and we are a profanity free show/webchat, because we have teens as members.

NappyMuseTV was a vision that came on Christmas 2009. In less than a month, NappyMuse was born, 1/18/2010. Very quickly the NappyMuse Community has spread worldwide. We have members in Japan, Switzerland, UK, Africa, Canada, and the USA. We are only getting larger. Click here and join everything by going to our website. We have a lot of plans for you.

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Now we care what you think. We take this question seriously.

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Judgement Both Ways? Women Want a Break!

Posted in Highest Self Esteem, Naptural Esteem, self-development with tags , , , on April 16, 2010 by nappymuse

The history behind a people explain the present and foretell a future.  All women have been scrutinized from the beginning of time. Why?  Because we are the doors of life.  Black women have been criticized even more by others, each other and worst by self.

Our men struggle to uplift us and fall short by comparing what we do to other races.  JAYLOVE47 talks about self hate in black women.  He believes that black women are the only women that alter their appearance.  Even my straight hair sisters are more natural than some other races.  For example:  more white women get plastic surgery than any other race.  In Asia, it is popular to extend their eye lids.  Though Loreal is one of the biggest largest distributors of perms made for white women and bought by white women, black women are said to be ashamed of who they are over a perm and/or weave.  JAYLOVE47 and many others don’t understand that it is deeper than and isolated decision and not limited to black women.

In the 1700’s the corset dress came out so that white women could mimic the small waist and very large buttocks of Saartie Baartman.   Women of all ages (or time periods) have tried to conform to the lust of what men want to see in that age.  Black women are not the only ones.  Take a look at  Saartjie “Sarah” Baartman, the Hottentot Venus.

Black women, you are beautiful whatever you decide to do with your hair.  You have been poked and prodded long enough.

7 Tips to Attract Love

Posted in Uncategorized on April 14, 2010 by nappymuse

1) Stop focusing on having someone.  It’s OK to desire a lover.  It’s not OK to live for a lover.

2. Open your eyes to the infinite possibilities and miracles of life.  Broaden your scope of life.  Tunnel vision only cause you to accept the first thing coming without expectations or standards.

3. Follow your passions.  Pursue the things that make you feel good; that thing you can do all day until sun down.  People are drawn to passionate people.

4. Find your rhythm.  Search for the music inside you; your soul’s song.  And walk proud to it.  People are attracted to music, both silent and audible.

5. Don’t worship worship your own opinion.  Be open to learn infinitely, grow, explore life,  love, and a new experience.  Be in the moment when you taste something for the first time,  see  something for the first time.  Expect the desires of your heart.  But do not concern your self with, nor try to control how.

6.  Treat your self to a laugh.

7. Start living now.  Do not wait for one kind of love to live. Learn to love yourself and appreciate all those that already love you; and soak in that love and live.

Click here listen to this in detail wait for my ( Jaye’s) segment on Nappturalite Radio.

The Instant Confidence Series (Part One)

Posted in Highest Self Esteem with tags , , , on March 14, 2010 by nappymuse

I was preparing my segment for Nappturalite Radio on this weeks topic, confidence.  And as always I blog my segments here.  I began to put together tips for the keys to instant confidence.   The ideas began to overflow into a series.  This is part one of a series.  In part one, I will deal with preparation, appearance, body and mind.  These 8 tips will deliver results the moment you implement them.  However, confidence should be layered.   We will explore those layers in the future parts of the series.

I will began any self-developing advise with this next statement of preparation.  So don’t be alarmed that it will be mentioned quite frequently.


1. Plan your day of confidence in a visualization the night before. Visualize doing things you never thought you could do; every night.

Comfortable Appearance

2. Be comfortable in your clothes.  Don’t wear clothes or shoes that make you feel uncomfortable in anyway.  You should always be able to stand, sit, bend over, walk without limping and walk to the restroom without being accompanied.  You should also be able to take off your coat, jacket or blazer, and even shoes; for unexpected situations, when you are asked to remove your shoes.  For example, at the airport or someone’s home. (That doesn’t afford the luxury of retaining a carpet cleaning service, if I might add.) You should never be embarrassed to remove your shoes.  This means clean, hole free socks, or polished or pedicured toes and no ashy feet.


You may be surprised about effects of breathing, posture, the rhythm of your walk, the fluidity of your body movement, and even your facial expressions do in fact decrease or increase your confidence.

3. Deeper fuller breaths is healthy, and oxygenated, which makes the following free flowing, and will assist with natural grace and smooth connecting movement.

4. In your body you should practice correct posture. It is as simple as raising your head to a vertical stretch of your neck and spine, while relaxing from your shoulders and down throughout the length of your body. Imagine that your head is the most beautiful Christmas ornament, hung from the very center and top of your head.

5. I discovered that every time walked while playing an uplifting song in my mp3 player, I began to feel immortal and everything at times that once seemed impossible became highly attainable in my present thoughts.  I was walking on the rhythm with grace.  My body and mind were tuned to a blissful vibration.  I found that walking with correct posture on a rhythm, slow or fast, even without music produced the exact same results.

6. I also discovered that when making videos for my Youtube channels, that on some takes, I did not like the way I looked.  In  others I found myself to be beautiful.  On 98% of the videos I didn’t have on any makeup.  So makeup was not the issue.  It was my facial expressions that made the difference.  I studied what was displeasing to me in the video takes I did not like.  The result was in my most favored videos my face was relaxed and easy; even when I was animated.  On the ones I didn’t like, my face was not relaxed, but tense.  Relaxing the muscles of the face is the key to being camera ready and confident on camera.

Breathing, posture, walking to a rhythm, relaxing the facial muscles, and graceful movement, will create instant confidence in the body.


7. Gratitude puts you in a joyful and content place. You are most confident in the mind when you experience the combination of joy and contentment.  Gratitude has elements of both.

8. Realize there is no rejection, only situations or people that are not ready for you or best for you.

Jaye of NappyMuse

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The Nappturalite and the Nap of Her Neck

Posted in Highest Self Esteem, Poems of Confirmation with tags , , , , , , on February 26, 2010 by nappymuse
The nap of her neck has seen much, felt much, endured much and remains beautiful below and beneath her tightly coiled glory. Behold, her naps tour a light scent of patience. For her patience carries the fragrance of virtue. And her virtue is radiant.  Her naps tour an elite situation.  Few understand it. Most can’t comprehend it. Thus, we call her Nappturalite.

The nap of her neck as seen the world despise the difference between her and them.  Where the perm and the straightening comb have tried to defended her honor.  Many were afraid of her honor; her glorious honor.   What does a perm or comb laced with heat and lye, I mean lies, know about honor? For their defense they caused burns and pain and forgotten ways of proud glory, draped with gold and platinum beads and crowns with jewels and traces of the suns kiss on the ends of her locks.

The nap of her neck as felt the kiss of affection, the eyes of desire and the caress of the air blessing the valley; that is her glory.  She has felt love and desire.  She has felt warm and inviting sunrises and sunsets.

The nap of her neck has endured struggle, as her veins have felt restriction and heavy swallows filled with emotional shakes.

The nap of her neck stands guard and smiles; for she knows nothing can permanently tame the the wild, glorious coils that are always coming from beyond; like tiny soldiers that are born and bred with one purpose, to fight for beauty, her beauty.  Like unto the Battle of Troy, for love they are coming, always coming to win the war and take her back home to her roots, her natural beautiful roots.

The nap of her neck has seen much, felt much, endured much and remains beautiful below and beneath her tightly coiled glory that continues to grow beautifully. Behold, her naps tour a light scent of patience. For her patience carries the fragrance of virtue and her virtue is radiant.  Her naps tour an elite situation.   In honor of you, my sister, welcome all Nappturalites.

Jaye of NappyMuse

The Meaning of NappyMuse

Posted in Highest Self Esteem with tags , , , , , on February 19, 2010 by nappymuse

Inspiration to be you…
Natural, Alluring, Proud, Poised, You.
Magnificent, Unbelievable, Sensational and Elegant.

The NappyMuse has awaken.  She is beautiful, powerful and not ashamed.  Her natural allure is feared and praised.  Her mystery is coveted, her passion unattained.  Upon her lips is a blessing.  The ground where she once walked brings forth jasmine and lavender.  She is the NappyMuse.  She is inspiration.  You are inspiration.  Welcome home NappyMuse. 

by Jaye Reliford

Jaye’s 6 Powerful Tips ~ On Loving the NaturalU

Posted in Highest Self Esteem with tags , , , , , on February 19, 2010 by nappymuse

1.  We were taught as children to get out our clothes the night before.  I want you to decide your day the night before.

Visualize your day the way you want it to be the night before.  The things you want to accomplish and the way you want people to respond to you.  Feel the feelings of being in that day. Make your days Dayshavoo.  Go there before.

2. Coffee?  No increase your endorphin levels the moment you wake up.
Get out of bed like you won something or like you have just had the best sex you ever had.  Or actually do that if you can.

3. Look in the mirror and zoom in on your most beautiful asset; your smile, your eyes, your skin. Whatever it is, complement yourself with the best pick-up line you can think of.  Have game with yourself.

4.  Wear sexy underwear; simple yet effective.

5. Make eye contact with others, notice others.   Smile at the point of eye contact and beyond the point of eye contact.  Learn to change the temperature of the room. Think about that. ( I’ll explain this in the next blog, but think about it.)

6. When someone ask how you are doing say I am wonderful. You are not only confirming your day. You are confirming yourself. You are wonderful.


Your very makeup is saturated with intense power that gives way to the birth of beauty and poise.  You can not be planted nor picked, yet they call you flower.  They have sampled every language to name you and have found nothing worthy.  But that’s OK, because you are so magnificent; above words, above a name.  You are quote, unquote “beautifully and wonderfully made”.

Poem of confirmation by Jaye